When seeking couple counselling, it is important to find a therapist who has been trained specifically in relationship counselling. In One-2-One Counselling, two of our therapists have been trained, and have specialized, in couple counselling.
If you are experiencing any of the following, now is a time that you may need couple counselling:
- A lot of arguments of relationship conflict: your conversations just go round and round in never-ending circles
- When you talk to your partner, you feel you are not been heard
- You can’t talk for long before it turns into a shouting match
- Your afraid to bring up certain subjects in case things get even worse
- After you talk to your partner you feel frustrated and confused
- There’s nothing left to say (most dangerous of all)
Ideally, you should go to couple counselling together. Couple counselling works by giving you both the chance to be heard. Counselling is an opportunity to look at the problem in a different way . With many couples the solution is right under their nose - it just takes someone neutral to help you access your inner resources and see what the solution is. It’s like the saying “you can’t see the wood for the trees” - couples counselors are trained wood-spotters! with someone who will respect and encourage your opinions and decisions.
In as few as six weeks of counselling, many couples have found huge changes in their relationship.
As an example, the counselling process can be seen as follows:
1. Exploring your story.
Uncovering the nature of the problems, and the impacts they’re having on your relationship. Exploring the history of how the problems arose, and what changes you’d both like to see.
2. Understanding your story.
Understanding why you’re both struggling with the problems, and the things that may be preventing you from overcoming them.
3. Rewriting your story.
Finding the strengths and resources to resolve your difficulties, or at least make them more bearable.
